"Hey man have you tried going a couple days without smoking weed?" is not interrogation. It's concern."
Or maybe it is both?
Your friends are probably old enough to no want to be controlled by you. Tell them your opinion, it might do them good, but maybe don't tell them what to do. They should figure that out on their own.
A question of "Have you tried..." might be the precursor to an offered opinion. Maybe their friends have been successful at that exact thing and the opinion is moot. But if the answer is no, perhaps that's the point at which it might be suggested to try.
There's no controlling that is necessarily suggested by their comments. Certainly such questions can be asked in bad faith but it might be assumed that OP isn't doing that.
Well, it is also about intention yes, but my point was just that people do not like to be treated as children (especially when they are acting as such). To reach them, I first have to respect their choices.
"Hey man have you tried going a couple days without smoking weed?" is not interrogation. It's concern."
Or maybe it is both?
Your friends are probably old enough to no want to be controlled by you. Tell them your opinion, it might do them good, but maybe don't tell them what to do. They should figure that out on their own.